The Right Attitude Makes All The Difference
Are you a glass is half-full or half-empty kind of person? Be honest with yourself. Many people don't realize that they have accumulated a 'negative personality'. If this is true for you, don't take it personally. It is more than likely that your parents, partner or other significant people in your life has 'helped you gain' this perspective. Some people get a lot of satisfaction from winning and succeeding, other people get a lot of satisfaction from losing and feeling sorry for themselves. It is quite strange to actually see that a part of you loves negativity. If complaining and blaming are a part of your psyche, it's time to take responsibility and and change your programming. You'll soon see that fighting it doesn't help, just by noticing it when it happens - it starts to disappear. Why? Because it is an unconscious reaction. When you re-act, you repeat the past. Most of our lives we re-act, instead of respond. When you respond, you look at the reality of the moment and choose the best course of action. Have you ever noticed how sometimes a bad thing, turns into a good thing? So, how do we know if it was really a 'bad thing', in the first place? If you look carefully, you'll see that we don't. It's important to get out of the habit of judging our experiences, because our inner negativity creates more negativity and this isn't what we want. What is the most important thing to you? If you're like most people, you want to be happy and feel peace. Unless you get out of the routine of judging, complaining and blaming you're not going to get what you really want. Notice in the moment any time you feel like you want problems and ask yourself: who wants problems? You'll start to see that a part of your psyche feeds on negativity. The good news is, because you are noticing that a part of you wants negativity - obviously you are not the negativity itself. The fact is, happy-peaceful people feel happy and peaceful. If this is what you really want, you have to change your own attitude - no one will do it for you. If you find that you're surrounded by negativity, don't get involved in the stories. There are millions of events happending every moment, do you want to focus on the worst one? Some people like to focus on what's wrong. Focus on what you really want and you'll get it. Like attracts like. Even if the circumstances of your life aren't perfect (they never are), they could always be worst. Feel grateful for what you do have and appreciate the little things. Getting into the 'routine' of having a positive attitude will change your life.
All the best, Jason |